Today I’m featuring a guest post by Paris Byrum of Nourishing a Life in Christ. She is sharing a personal testimony about how she learned about contentment.
A huge part of homemaking is contentment. This is so very hard in a #firstworldproblems culture. With Pinterest at our finger tips, it’s often easy to become covetous of what we do not have or what we are not. A heart of unbelief leads to a heart of discontentment. Regardless, if we claim Christ as our savior, we are called and even commanded to be content in everything we do, are given and in our circumstances.
A Look into My Past
Looking back on my homemaking career, I have unfortunately learned the hard way of what contentment looks like. About 6 years ago, my husband had made the decision for us to move into a 5th wheel trailer in hopes to save enough money to purchase a home in the future. At this time I had one baby, and sold many things so that we could be comfortable in our new small space.
During the summer, and the “honeymoon” stage of it, it felt like an adventure! It was fun, new, and exciting. After about 6 months, and winter setting in with a new pregnancy, this fun was starting to wear off. Friends started to feel uncomfortable in my small space and getting the wood stove to start was difficult on super cold nights.
These cold nights were where my cold heart began. Bitterness was setting in.
“If only I had forced heat…”
“I wish we had a instant hot water heater…”
“I want more space!”
“I can’t wait until we move into a house…”
This was my attitude for 4 long years. In the midst of homemaking, I gave every excuse as to why I could not enjoy my life at this moment or why I could not keep up on the laundry or fill in the blank. I complained about virtually everything, even though I justified on why I complained by comparing what I didn’t have to others.
It was a very difficult time in my life, and it was because I was looking and focusing on the wrong thing. At this point in my life I was not saved and it was difficult for me to understand that this was a worldly way to respond to my circumstances. I needed Christ to transform my heart!
In the race of faith, it is crucial to remember that our contentment is not determined by our circumstances. We often want to blame circumstances for our discontent, but that’s barking up the wrong tree. Contentment is determined by what we believe. And our belief is fueled by what we’re seeing. So if you need to lay aside the weight (Hebrews 12:1) of discontentment today – the sinful kind that stems from disappointment and leads to grumbling – begin by looking at what you’re looking at. – Jon Bloom
Looking to Christ
To analyze my heart looking back, my focus was far from Christ. It was on the next thing of a new house, and my unbelief caused me to sin further.
Though many of you may not have lived in a trailer with 3 children ages 2 and under with 90 square feet of walking space for 4 years, I am sure you have had circumstances that were less than ideal and were discontent in the midst of it. When we strive to win the race and press towards the prize, (Philippians 3:14) our focus is vastly different then what it is on when we are discontent.
Here are a few practical steps to get back in the race:
Stop. We must stop the complaining, stop what is in the abundance of our hearts, and stop letting our eyes offend us. What does this look like? Deleting Pinterest? Praying and catching your tongue? Asking your husband for accountability?
Look. What are you wanting? Were you idolizing something? Where were your eyes gazing upon?
Think. We must renew our minds if we want to overcome the sin of discontentment in our homemaking. Our thought patterns affect our outcomes. If we are thinking on things that are is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable (Philippians 4:8) and our hope is in Christ and not in our circumstances, we can effectively fight off discontentment.
About the Author: Hello, my name is Paris Byrum. I am a Christ follower, a wife to a great husband for 8 years and a mama to four littles. I am a lover of all things creative & seek to encourage others to run the race and live a life to glorify God. Come visit me at Nourishing a Life in Christ if you like what you read here.
A note from Laura: Part Two will be released next week. In the meantime, you can also find Paris on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.