Today I am welcoming Paris Byrum of Nourishing a Life in Christ as she shares with us how she learned why motherhood matters. Thanks Paris! If you missed part one, read it here.
I am so happy to join Laura today at Homemaking for His Glory, as we continue the series of Motherhood Matters! Motherhood truly does matter, and I will address how and ultimately why it does in this post. As a mother of 5 children (one in my womb) I did not always feel like my ministry in motherhood mattered. We will start with my viewpoint on motherhood.
How Did These Feelings Start?
Growing up, I was groomed to become a career woman, as that was the only way to be accomplished in this modern world. Every week I visited my college and career counselor, dreaming of my next stage of life.
I got married at the age of 19 and got pregnant right away, (unplanned on our part of course!) and I lost many friends who said I was “throwing my life away”. This was the mindset I had as I entered motherhood. Though my husband was from a large Christian family, and motherhood for women was the norm, it was very foreign to me.
In my ﬁrst four years of motherhood, I had four children (with no multiples!) so I was fully immersed in something I wasn’t sure was a worthy calling. It took years of heartache, struggle, and sinful desires to come to where I am now in my viewpoint of motherhood. I became bitter and resentful towards my husband and God, because I just wanted to spend time in the business world, where my efforts accomplished something…rather than another load of laundry and diaper changes that are never ending.
When I look back on how I was raised, it is a great reminder that how we talk and inﬂuence our children, will be what they take with them into their adult life.
How I Overcame My Struggles and Sinful Desires: Reading God’s Word
Reading God’s Word in the early years was nearly impossible. It was not until I joined a biblical church where I saw the importance of being in His Word more then anything else. If we want change, it can not be external, but rather internal.
Jesus said “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. You blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean.” Matthew 23:25-26
The concept in this verse is that you can’t change the external and expect the internal to change. Many times I would put on a smile and plunge through my chores and my children, only to be searing inside that I am not working and that my husband did not notice what I accomplished that day. I needed my heart to change, and my works will follow.
God the Holy Spirit, is what causes our hearts to change, and it is prompted by the reading of God’s Word. If we wait until “the spirit moves,” it will never happen. We must be in His Word to experience change:
“So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11
His Word will not return void. God has the power to change our hearts and our desires.
Reciting His Promises to Myself and Renewing My Mind
The everyday “mundane” tasks are what God uses to sanctify us. We have a great mission. ”Missional Motherhood” as Gloria Furman coined it, is the perspective that everything we do is for the glory of God’s Kingdom. As a mother, you have the power (through the Holy Spirit) that He bestowed upon you, to disciple your children Deuteronomy 6 style.
Notice that it is through God that you are able to do this; we were created from the beginning to be dependent on our Creator. This is where change begins, knowing that we are dependent on God, and be able to use His word, to renew our minds in our daily living. In a practical sense of how we bring glory to God, in our every day tasks and interactions with our children.
These types of questions are self examining, helping me see what is really on my mind, and also shows my dependence on someone outside of myself:
- How can we as a family team master this >insert chore< for Gods glory? Colossians 3:23-24
- Is our speech wholesome and edifying today? Ephesians 4:29
- What is my purpose today in disciplining my children and it is bringing them to repentance? Hebrews 12:11
- Did I display or talk to my children about the Gospel today? Matthew 28:19
A note from Laura: Thanks Paris! I know a lot of women can relate to what you shared, especially when motherhood is something that surprises us. Next week, I will be publishing the next part of Paris’ story.
About the Author: Hello, my name is Paris Byrum. I am a Christ follower, a wife to a great husband for 8 years and a mama to four littles. I am a lover of all things creative & seek to encourage others to run the race and live a life to glorify God. Come visit me at Nourishing a Life in Christ if you like what you read here. You can also find me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.