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This is the final installment of the Motherhood Matters series.
Part One: Motherhood and the Gospel
Part Two: Focusing on Truth
Part Three: When Things Don’t Go Our Way
Part Four: Finding Your Value as a Person
I awoke to my cheerful alarm, grabbed my computer and my coffee, and sat down to write. As soon as I opened my browser, I heard my baby.
“MAMAAAAAAA!” he shrieked in his distinctive 10 month old voice.
Maybe he’ll go back to sleep, I thought. He usually sleeps more than an hour later than this.
Nope. After a few attempts at soothing, I saw the futility of my efforts and recognized that he was indeed up for the day. I had hoped to write an entire blog post. I hadn’t written a single word.
Such incidents happen regularly around my home. On the day that this particular episode happened, he also refused to nap when it was nap time. I confess that sometimes I don’t think joyful thoughts when things don’t go as planned. A lot of women struggle with feeling as if their work doesn’t matter. Personally, I have a hard time with the fact that I do the exact same things over and over, and they never stay done. There is always another diaper or another dish.
The feeling of monotony leads to a feeling of futility or worthlessness. By its very nature, staying home with a baby is isolating. I’m blessed to have a mom friend who I text often. She lives in another state, but she understands what I tell her.
I recently heard a friend say that she feels like mothering just isn’t enough. I think we all relate to that at some point, whether we admit it to others or not. Moms get tired!
How shall then shall we stay motivated? How do we focus on what matters when it seems impossible?
As I was doing housework one day, a phrase popped into my mind: Motherhood in light of eternity.
What does that mean? It means focusing on the end of the story. Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, said “Begin with the end in mind.” His quote is generally used in a business context, but it applies to mothering as well.
The fact of the matter is this: the only thing that I will take into eternity is my family, if they are saved. Each moment with my son is an opportunity for discipleship. When I read his story Bible to him, I’m planting the seeds of knowledge about God. When I pick up a Cheerio off of the floor for the millionth time, I’m showing him love. When I pray over him after I put him in his crib for the night, I’m asking God to show me how to parent him (believe me, I need the help).
I did some cool things before I entered the season of marriage and motherhood. I was ranked second in speaker points at a national debate tournament. I interned in Washington, DC. I graduated summa cum laude from college. I worked at a job that I loved. I’m proud of these things and the effort that went into them, and that isn’t inherently bad. As cool as they are though, they do not matter as much as the soul I’m shaping now.
I want my son to follow God, even when it’s scary. I want my son to be in a Scripture saturated home. I want my son to remember a mom who was filled with joy, even in the midst of the mundane.
And that is what ultimately matters.
…but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. – Joshua 24:15b KJV
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