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On Mondays during the month of May, I’m going to be running a series called Motherhood Matters. This is a topic that has been weighing on my heart for a long time. I hope you are encouraged by what you read here.
Some of us plan to be mothers for a long time before it actually happens, and some of us are (quite literally) surprised by motherhood. I was in the second category.
In the space of a year, I graduated from college, got married, moved to a new city, found out I was pregnant, had a baby, and had surgery immediately after having a baby. Whew.
As I began my mothering journey, I noticed many women struggle with some of the same things that I did.
I just feel like I’m not doing anything important. I don’t feel valued. I miss being rewarded for my work.
Lets be completely honest here: I don’t think anyone changes poop diapers and thinks “YES! This is my calling! I have found it! This is IT!” We change them because we love the person, and we can see why it’s necessary.
At its core, motherhood is a series of self-sacrificial choices. It starts right from the point of conception and continues from there. In a culture that emphasizes self-worship, this is not something that’s really supported.
I’ve found that in my own life, I become discouraged when I lose sight of why I’m doing what I’m doing. Theology is a word that causes some to grimace, but it’s so needed.
Theology sounds boring, but it’s really just studying the truth of God’s word. When I meditate on the truth, I find myself being renewed and encouraged.
God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. – Genesis 1:27
Because I am created in God’s image, I have dignity and worth. My value is not based in the number of children I have, whether or not I work outside of the home, or any other earthly characteristic. Since all other humans are also created in the image of God, they deserve to be treated with respect.
Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; they will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate. – Psalm 127:3-5
My son is a blessing from God!
For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either. – 1 Timothy 6:7
The only thing that will matter in eternity is the condition of one’s soul. My biggest responsibility as a parent is to teach my child about God.
Remembering these things are true helps me to stay motivated in my work. I know that they’re true…because of theology!
I’ve read many articles about why motherhood matters. Unfortunately, many of them reach the conclusion that motherhood is important…because it just is. My soul craved a deeper answer to the question.
The book Treasuring Christ When Your Hands are Full by Gloria Furman was a recommendation from Jami Balmet, another blogger. This is the only book I have ever read on Kindle and then decided to purchase in paperback form. It radically transformed my mothering.
To quote Gloria Furman herself, “Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full is not a to-do list on how to be a good mother. It’s about our good God and what He has done.”
When we focus on the greater picture of the Gospel, the parenting decisions that once seemed so important become less stressful. It ultimately does not matter if I used disposable diapers or cloth diapers. It matters that I pray for my son and that I teach him about God. Coming to this realization brings freedom.
We need to have eyes to see a view of God that is so big and so glorious that it transforms our perspective of motherhood. In the context of eternity, where Christ is doing his work of reigning over the cosmos, we need to see our mundane moments for what they really are – worship. – Gloria Furman, Treasuring Christ When Your Hands are Full
Have you ever struggled with feeling as if your work didn’t matter? What helped you when you felt that way?