5 Verses to Pray Over Your Children

I’m not really great at prayer. Often, I feel like I’m just saying the same few things over and over again. Recently though, I’ve started praying words straight from the Bible. Among other benefits, praying the Bible helps me to focus on the greater picture of God’s plan, rather than only on my own circumstances. It is good to pray about situations in my own life, but it’s also good to focus on others.

I don’t believe that praying this way is a Scriptural mandate, but it’s been helpful for me. Many Bible passages were originally prayers. Some of the Psalms fall into that category. As a teenager, I read through the book of Psalms and noticed that several chapters consisted of the psalmist lamenting to God about his problems. I affectionately dubbed these the “why me???” Psalms. I believe that God included those for a reason. People in the Bible had problems, just like we do today.

Passages that describe people who were obedient to the Lord can also inspire prayers. Lord, give me the courage of Daniel and his friends in the lion’s den…Help me to stand up for what is right, even in the face of opposition…

The following 5 verses are great for praying for your child or children. One of the best things you can do as a parent is to pray.

  1. Numbers 6:24-26

The Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace. – Numbers 6:24-26 NKJV

I’ve been praying this passage over my toddler every night after he goes to sleep. As a mom, one of my greatest desires is to keep him safe. Ultimately though, God is in control of his life, and of every person’s life. “The Lord bless you and keep you.” I pray for God to keep him safe and to help him sleep peacefully.

2. 2 Peter 3:18

But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory, both now and to the day of eternity. Amen. – 2 Peter 3:18 NASB

My mom used to pray this verse for me. I want my son to learn more about God as he gets older. This verse also reminds me that I’m supposed to be teaching him about the Bible. How will he learn if he is not taught, and who has more responsibility for that than me?

3. 3 John 1:4

I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth. – 3 John 1:4 NASB

I pray for my little boy to get saved and to follow God. This verse was talking about spiritual children, rather than biological children. In either case though, children who follow God are a source of joy!

4. 1 Peter 3:15

But sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence. – 1 Peter 3:15 NASB

There was a time when claiming to be a Christian was the default response in the United States. The social pressure to be at least nominally Christian has diminished, and a growing percentage of adult Americans give the response “none” when asked what religion they practice.

Given that this is the reality now, it’s perhaps more important than ever to teach kids to be comfortable with being different, and to be comfortable with discussing why they’re different in a gentle and kind way.

5. Hebrews 13:6-7

So that we confidently say, “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid, what will man do to me?” – Hebrews 13:6-7 NASB

It’s important to follow God’s commands, even when it’s scary and unpopular. I want to instill that in my son. The Bible tells us not to be afraid hundreds of times. Ultimately, what can humans do to us? For Christians, even physical death can’t separate us from God.

praying over your children

What are some of your favorite verses to pray over your children?

When God Doesn’t Fix It

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I’ve started to write this post a hundred times. Today I’m finally finishing it.

My son was born in April of 2016. It did not go well and things were scary towards the end, but he was born alive. His cries were the sweetest sound I’d ever heard. I was hurt very badly. (I did not have a c-section. Everyone asks that. It is in fact possible to have a baby without a c-section and still need emergency surgery. Who knew??)

The precise details of what happened to me are not important. This story is not really about me. It’s about Jesus, and how I found hope in Him.

The days passed. The pain was excruciating. I could not sit down for the first month. I told myself that this was normal. After all, six weeks of maternity leave is standard. No one at the hospital said that my recovery would be any different from anyone else.

Six weeks passed and the pain continued. Maybe I’ll just need eight weeks, I thought. Some people who have c-sections say it’s more like eight weeks. I did have surgery. Maybe it’ll just be more like that.

Eight weeks passed. Twelve weeks. Sixteen. All through those sixteen weeks, my baby cried. They told me he had colic. It only added to my growing sense of failure.

When my son was 4 months old, a lactation consultant who was otherwise completely unhelpful and insulting made a passing comment about how it would take a year to recover from the type of complication I had.

Every month that passed brought new discouragement as I, the healthy 21 year old, continued to live with chronic pain. I carefully calculated how long I could sit per day. There would be no snuggling with my sleeping baby in the rocking chair for hours, as I had imagined when I was pregnant. I tried to tough it out, but I just couldn’t. It hurt too much.

Mondays were the worst. I would sit through Sunday school, a morning service, and an evening service on Sundays. I paid the price on Mondays. I went to everything because I thought it was the right thing to do.

Why am I suffering so much from doing the right thing? I wondered. It didn’t seem fair.

After six months of this, I reached my breaking point. I felt the Lord say “Laura, do you trust me?”

I ignored the question for weeks. Then I finally decided that I didn’t need to hide what I was thinking from God. He knows everything anyway.

No, Lord. I really don’t. I don’t trust you. I did all the right things and made good and moral choices and this is how You repay me.

That’s awful. I know it’s awful now, and I knew it was awful then. But being honest with God about it was the first step towards healing spiritually.

Christianity doesn’t guarantee an easy life.

This is the question: Are you using God to get something from Him? Or is God Himself the goal of your striving? – Matt Chandler, To Live is Christ to Die is Gain

When I first read that quote from, it hit me hard. That IS the question! Am I a Christian because I think I’ll get more perks and have an easier life if I do the right thing? I certainly shouldn’t be!

Think of Paul, who was perhaps one of the greatest Christians who ever lived.

Five times I received from the Jews thirty-nine lashes. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, a night and a day I have spent in the deep.  I have been on frequent journeys, in dangers from rivers, dangers from robbers, dangers from my countrymen, dangers from the Gentiles, dangers in the city, dangers in the wilderness, dangers on the sea, dangers among false brethren;  I have been in labor and hardship, through many sleepless nights, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure. – 2 Corinthians 11:24-27

Does that sound like someone who followed God because it made his life more comfortable? Certainly not! This concept of only serving God because it makes things easier slips in subconsciously at first, but it is toxic. Nowhere in the Bible does God make the claim that bad things only happen if the person deserves it.

We don’t always know why things happen.

I wish I could tell you that I have arrived, that I am so thankful to have started living with chronic pain at the age of 21, and that I completely understand why this happened to me. Those things would be lies.

What I have learned though, is that we have to believe that there is a larger story at work here that we may never know this side of eternity. I will have questions when I get to heaven, and I think that’s okay.

As I write this, it is April 2017. While the pain has dulled somewhat, it is still there. Sometimes my friends will ask me if I’m going to get better. Honestly, I don’t know. I still hope so, but I just really don’t know.

But I’m no longer placing my ultimate hope in a pain free existence.

Too often, my hope is in my ever-changing circumstances. I say things like, ‘I really need the baby to take his nap this morning,’ which is a fine thing to say and a fine thing to look forward to. But if, come lunchtime, the nap hasn’t happened, and I’m so emotionally wasted by it that it ruins my afternoon, then I’ve probably put more faith in that nap than in the never-changing circumstances of the gospel. – Gloria Furman, Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full

My hope is not in getting better, it is in the knowledge that I’ve been saved from the depths of hell by a Savior who loves me. It is the knowledge that I will be in heaven someday.

Sometimes God doesn’t fix it, at least not to my human standards. But He is there. And He is good.

Things I Make from Scratch (and some things I still buy!)

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cooking from scratch

Cooking from scratch sounds so intimidating. I don’t make everything from scratch, but I’ve experimented with various things over the last year and a half. Some things are worth it to me. Other things…not so much.

Taco seasoning mix:

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I actually didn’t know that most people buy the little packets from the grocery store until after I got married. My mom always made her taco seasoning from scratch. She gave me the recipe at my bridal shower, along with some other favorite family recipes. Taco seasoning is simple to whip up yourself, and the store bought version has unnecessary additives. Verdict: Make from scratch.

Chicken bouillon mix: The Trim Healthy Mama cookbook has a recipe for “Trim Healthy Bouillon.” Since it’s copyrighted material, I can’t repeat the recipe here. I will say that it was very easy to make though! Verdict: Make from scratch

Refried beans: I started using more refried beans when I was dairy free. Making them myself sounded intimidating, but it’s actually really easy. Dried pinto beans can be purchased inexpensively at most grocery stores. I put 2 cups of dried pinto beans into my crockpot along with 6 cups of water, a little bit of diced peppers and onions, and salt to taste. I left the crockpot on high for 8 hours. Once they were done, I mashed them and then froze them in individual servings. Verdict: Make from scratch

Boneless skinless chicken breasts (rather than buying a whole chicken): I have purchased whole chickens and processed them myself a couple times now. The second time was less gag-inducing than the first, but dealing with a whole chicken is still pretty nasty. I use a crockpot liner to contain the mess and let the whole chicken cook until it’s tender. Then I let it cool and take apart the meat.

On my last trip to Aldi, I found a whole chicken from their Never Any brand that was $5, which made the price $3.15. The Never Any brand has no added hormones, no antibiotics, and no animal-byproducts. Typically it’s also a good bit more expensive, but the mark down made it a great deal this time. Verdict: Whole chickens are worth it for nicer meat, but not for conventional meat.

Chicken broth: Making chicken broth is straightforward if you’ve just cooked a whole chicken. If you haven’t just cooked a whole chicken, it would be more of a pain. I’ve only made homemade chicken broth once. As with cooking whole chickens, I’m not convinced that this is beneficial enough to do all the time. Verdict: I’ll take my chances with the low sodium chicken broth from Aldi.

Tortillas: I have never made tortillas from scratch in my life. Honestly, I’m intimidated. We do buy the 100% whole wheat version.I might attempt making them myself someday…but honestly, 100% whole wheat tortillas straight out of the package are just so convenient. Verdict: I’m scared.

What do you make from scratch? Do you have favorite family recipes?

My Homemaking Mentor

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Becoming a homemaker is a transition. Even if you helped around the house a lot as a teenager, managing your own home is a new level of responsibility. As a society, we treat home management as something that is easy. In fact, it is supposedly so easy that it should come automatically. In reality, that’s not the case for many women. It certainly wasn’t for me!

While homemaking might not be easy or natural, it’s certainly worth it. The woman has the power to set the tone in her home. When I manage my home well, it becomes a haven and place of rest for the whole family. When my home is out of control, I feel stressed. My stress trickles down to the rest of the family and everyone is less relaxed.

About a year ago, there was a Kickstarter campaign to build an online training academy for Christian women to learn homemaking skills. I was one of the initial Kickstarter backers, so I’ve been with this project from the beginning.

My Homemaking Mentor is a collection of 15 courses on topics such as meal planning, cleaning, spiritual disciplines, motherhood, marriage, and modesty. At $99 for lifetime access, it’s actually a really great deal. Most of the online courses I’ve seen have been priced at $30-$40 for a single course. My Homemaking Mentor includes 15 courses from 12 mentors.

There will also be a bonus course that will be taught LIVE in the private Facebook group for My Homemaking Mentor members! The live course is starting April 1st.

One of the best things about My Homemaking Mentor is that you never have to pay for updates. When the academy first launched, there were 10 courses. Since then, five more have been added, but I never had to pay an additional fee for access to the new content. Pay once, enjoy forever.

Additionally, there is a brand new printable companion guide with all of the lesson notes. I can’t wait to download mine!

If you prefer auditory learning, all of the video lessons are also available as an audio download. The courses can be accessed from any device, so you can learn via your computer, tablet, or phone.

My Favorite Courses

  1. Jolene Engle teaches “A Wife Who Cultivates a Fulfilling Marriage.” The marriage courses in MHM are taught from a complementarian perspective. Contrary to popular belief, submission does not mean being weak. I love how Jolene evidences that in her course. Just from hearing her speak you can tell that she is not a weak person!
  2. Marci Farrell teaches “Simple Routines to Keep Your Home in Order.” The key to maintaining a home is consistency and habits. The videos show precisely what she does in various rooms to maintain order.
  3. Jennifer Ross teaches “Encouragement for Weary Moms.” I love how she asks questions to get to the root of your weariness. As the mom of eleven, she’s walked through many seasons of motherhood. I like her perspective on how different things need to be most important in different seasons.

I’m currently approaching my second wedding anniversary and my son’s first birthday. In the last year, I’ve gained so much knowledge and confidence in my homemaking skills. Putting the things I learned from these courses into practice has transformed my home.

Enrollment in My Homemaking Mentor will be closing on April 3, 2017. It will re-open at a higher price in the fall.

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101 in 1001: Update #1

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101 in 1001

This is my first update on my 101 in 1001. I’m planning to write one of these every 3 months or so. Instead of the more traditional New Year’s Resolutions, I decided to do a list of 101 things to be done in 1001 days instead. My 1001 days began on December 15, 2016 and will conclude on September 12, 2019. I broke down my goals by category when I wrote the original list, so I’ll be doing that here as well.

Faith

  • I’m still on track to finish reading through the Bible in 2017. I just finished 2 Samuel. Reading the Bible is one of the items in my habit tracker in my bullet journal. Having that reminder has helped a lot with consistency.
  • Another goal was to find a place to contribute at church. I signed up to be in the nursery rotation. I’m hoping to be able to help with some other things too, as the need arises.

Family and Friends

Homemaking and Organization

  • I finished making the list of 101 things (that was a task in and of itself).
  • I decluttered my closet. A lot of things were worn out or didn’t fit. It’s much easier to find things that I can actually wear now.
  • I organized the pantry, which was a one time task on this list….but looks like it’ll actually be an ongoing saga.
  • I’m getting into a groove with doing the daily cleaning tasks from How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind.
  • All of our pictures are on the walls. You know you’ve really moved into a new place when you have pictures on the walls.
  • I decided to use my bullet journal instead of a designated blogging planner, but I have posts planned for the next two months. Now I need to write them all.
  • I’ve learned how to use a bullet journal and I love it!

Health

I did an experiment where I cut out sugar, dairy, and gluten from my diet for 30 days. While I didn’t see the type of improvement I had hoped for, it was worth a shot.

Writing

  • With the exception of one week, I’ve managed to stay consistent with posting on my blog twice a week.
  • I bought a domain name.
  • I’ve written three guest posts, which you can read on Veronica Anne, Raising Arrows, and Homemakers in Action.
  • I created a printable, which is now available for free when you subscribe to my newsletter. Subscribe by clicking on the button in the sidebar!
  • I chose a word of the year: brave. I’ve continued to think of that often.
  • I learned more about blogging by watching some videos.
  • Participated in my first link party.
  • I commented on more of other people’s blog posts.
  • I set up a newsletter in January.

Cooking

  • I made a month long meal plan, which ended up turning into 28 Days of Meal Planning.
  • I also tried out making refried beans from scratch, which was surprisingly easy and tasty!

Reading

So far I’ve read 13 books from the Rory Gilmore Challenge:

  1. Uncle Tom’s Cabin by Harriet Beecher Stowe
  2. Snow White and Rose Red by Grimm Brothers
  3. Sonnets from the Portuguese by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
  4. The Story of My Life – Helen Keller
  5. Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy
  6. A Comedy of Errors – William Shakespeare
  7. Rapunzel – Grimm Brothers
  8. Emma – Jane Austen
  9. Merry Wives of Windsor – William Shakespeare
  10. Heart of Darkness – Joseph Conrad
  11. Jane Eyre – Charlotte Bronte
  12. Walden – Henry David Thoreau
  13. The Picture of Dorian Gray – Oscar Wilde (It was disturbing.)

Just for Fun

The only thing I got to from the “fun” category was judging at a debate tournament. I judged the semi-final debate round at an NCFCA tournament, which was a lot of fun!

I’m glad I chose this method of goal setting. What are your goals? How are they going?

Discernment vs. Fear

New moms face choices as they enter the fray of the mommy wars.

Fat is bad. Carbs are bad. Sugar is bad. Stevia is bad.

Don’t have caffeine when you’re pregnant. Don’t raise your arms over your head when you’re pregnant. Don’t sleep on your back when you’re pregnant.

Don’t have a c-section. Don’t use formula. Don’t breastfeed. Don’t breastfeed in public. Don’t breastfeed with a cover.

Don’t have children. Have children, but not too many. Have as many children as physically possible.

For mothers of young children, life can seem like an endless series of choices. No matter what choice you make, someone will be there to let you know that it was wrong and that if you really loved your baby, you would have done X instead. It’s enough to drive a person crazy.

In light of this, lets talk about two concepts: discernment and fear.

What is discernment?

It is the ability to make discriminating judgments, to distinguish between, and recognize the moral implications of, different situations and courses of action. It includes the ability to “weigh up” and assess the moral and spiritual status of individuals, groups, and even movements. – Sinclair Ferguson

Discernment is good. It is good to examine the information you have and to make an informed decision. Christians are in situations where discernment is required every day.

But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil. – Hebrews 5:14

This verse is part of a passage about the different needs of new and more mature Christians. As we grow in our walks with the Lord, we learn more about what He would want us to do in various situations. The right choices become more clear.

What is fear?

The Bible mentions two different types of fear. One type of fear is meant to convey being in awe and being reverent towards God. Fearing God in that way is a good thing. We ought to respect God.

The other type of fear is being scared of something or someone. That sort of fear is discouraged. Many verses begin with the phrase “Do not be afraid.”

Both types of fear are different from being discerning.

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful. – John 14:27

In John 13 and 14, Jesus was talking to His disciples about how things would be after He ascended to heaven. He talked about His deity, His power, and the gift of the Holy Spirit to Christians. In a passage rich with theological depth, Jesus began to conclude by commanding His disciples to be unafraid.

By definition, the distinction between discernment and fear seems clear cut. Reality is not always as obvious.

When making a parenting decision, I try to think through these questions:

Am I making this choice because I’m afraid? Is it a healthy or an unhealthy fear?

I’m afraid of my baby getting hurt if we hypothetically got in a wreck. That’s a healthy fear, so I make sure he’s securely fastened in his car seat every time we get in the car. Fears of rejection, unpopularity, and loneliness are not healthy fears.

Am I making this choice so someone else will be impressed with me?

What impresses someone else isn’t necessarily what’s actually best for my child. Parenting is not about me and my own self-glorification.

parenting is not about me

Does the Bible speak specifically about this issue? If not, is there a more general Biblical principle that I could apply to my situation?

The Bible contains examples of many situations, but there are some issues where we are left to wonder if we can apply a general principle. Further, there are some situations where there is no morally right or wrong answer at all. The Bible does not discuss cloth diapers, though we know historically that’s what everyone was doing. Disposable diapers are not a sin.

Outside of the parenting realm, healthy living tends to fall into this category. Individual dietary needs vary, as I personally discovered in my own family. There is more than one way to be healthy.

Use the information you have. Pray. Choose. And do not be afraid.

Have you had to fight between fear and discernment in your life? How did you decide how to make the best choice?

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Our Real Food Journey

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real food

What is real food? When I use the term, I’m referring to an approach to eating that does not try to eliminate any food groups, but rather just focuses on whole foods. Real food is not laden with sugar, highly processed, or from a fast food restaurant.

Over the last year and a half, I’ve learned more about health and nutrition. Before I got married, I had little interest in cooking. Like most college students, I didn’t obsess over health too much. I was never overweight, but I wasn’t particularly healthy either. I got married a few weeks after I graduated from college. Six weeks after our wedding, we found out that we were expecting.

With the help of Pinterest, I kept us fed and out of restaurants for the most part, but I still didn’t know much about nutrition. I was sick for the entirety of my pregnancy. I continued to cook, though sometimes all I could manage was dumping something into the crockpot. It was difficult for me to eat much, due to being so sick.

When I hit the 16 week mark and had still gained absolutely nothing, my doctor expressed concern. At that point, I still didn’t feel fabulous, but it was slightly better. My mom had been into Trim Healthy Mama for a while and mentioned crossovers, which is when you have healthy carbs and healthy fats in the same meal. Following that principle, I worked really hard at trying to get calories in for the next month, only to lose (pun unintended) all of my progress when I came down with the virus of the century.

I drank Trim Healthy Mama Good Girl Moonshine every morning, because the ginger would keep my sickness to a slightly more manageable level. The taste wasn’t my favorite, but I was desperate after four months of barely being able to eat. I got the Trim Healthy Mama book for Christmas, and learned quite a bit about health. My son was born three days early at just under nine pounds. Clearly, my sickness and consequential struggle to eat enough did not affect his weight gain. 😉 In the end, I did gain enough weight, had almost no swelling at all, and lost all of my baby weight quickly.

At 12 days old, I suspected that my son had dairy issues, so I cut it out of my diet. It seemed to cure his problems, so I stayed dairy free for the next 8.5 months. Attempting to do Trim Healthy Mama, exclusively nurse, and be dairy free did not agree with my system and I looked like I was wasting away. I ended up ditching Trim Healthy Mama and just tried to be as healthy as possible, while also getting enough calories.

For a while there when I was in survival mode, I caved and ate some highly processed and unhealthy snacks. Eventually though, we got into a groove and I was able to put more time into preparing healthy meals again. I still like a lot of Trim Healthy Mama recipes and think the concepts are wonderful for many people, but everyone in my household currently needs more carbs than what THM allows. We use some things like whole wheat pasta and honey that THM suggests only for growing children. With that in mind, we’ve focused on two main areas in our quest to eat real food.

1. No Sugar

The most important thing that I learned from Trim Healthy Mama was that sugar is terrible for your body. I’m related to several diabetics, so I knew that to a certain extent, but I didn’t truly understand the number of problems sugar can cause until I watched the film Fed Up. (As I write this, Fed Up is available to stream on Netflix). Fed Up is a documentary about sugar in processed foods and the resulting negative health consequences. If you’re on the fence about whether or not sugar and highly processed foods are really that bad, I would encourage you to watch it.

2. Limited Processed Food

I try to always read the nutrition labels when I’m grocery shopping. If you’ve never read labels before, it’s shocking how much sugar and other additives are in a lot of foods. As a general rule, you should recognize most or all of the ingredients in your food. I cook a decent number of things from scratch.

We’ve been happy with our real food lifestyle. I’ve listed my favorite healthy cookbooks below. About 95% of what I cook comes out of one of these three cookbooks. We are certainly NOT perfect, but we’ve definitely improved over the last 18 months!

Recommended Resources:

The Trim Healthy Mama Cookbook by Serene Allison and Pearl Barrett

Necessary Food by Briana Thomas

100 Days of Real Food by Lisa Leake

To see what my family actually ate in January 2017, click the button below to receive 28 Days of Meal Planning for free! Again, keep in mind that we aren’t perfect!